Dear friend who is single heading into this holiday season,
The entire purpose of this series is to speak truth over you. I might not know what your family dynamic looks like, what your past relationships were like, how old you are, and what else may be going on in your life right now. But what I can tell you is that God’s love for you is unchanging and He is always present with you.
Let’s break down some lies singles are fed, especially this time of year.
– Your relationship status reveals your worth.
– You can’t be happy or joyful in this season.
– Something is missing from your current life.
– If only you were closer to God, then maybe He’d send your person.
– Your desire for marriage isn’t godly.
– And this is only naming a few…
If you’re facing potential awkward conversations with people this holiday season maybe even well-meaning people, but they keep digging into your love life. Let me tell you something that has helped me, most people mean well by asking. Most people want you to be happy. But some people are just plain nosey.
When people ask and push questions about your life, relationship status included, you have the power to change the conversation. You have options: you can change the topic, you can answer and then move on, or if it is someone you love and trust – you can share with them how hard the holidays are and ask them to be praying for you. It can be powerful to have trusted family and friends praying on your behalf. It also brings them into your current season where they can see how you might be hurting and how maybe their questions only add to that pain.
Singleness is a season and those who aren’t in it still can have a hard time understanding or remembering how it feels.
Maybe this season is lasting so much longer than you expected or wanted. Here is truth to remind yourself as thoughts of “why hasn’t it happened yet” fill your mind:
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on Me and come and pray to Me, and I will listen to you.” – Jeremiah 29:11
To fully grasp why this verse is one you should be holding on to, we need to look at the context around it in Jeremiah 29. We often hear this verse during changing seasons but ones that are usually filled with clear circumstances a step or two down the road. When I graduated high school, this verse was the one I saw most often in congratulations cards. The irony is in the context, in Jeremiah 29 the people of God are literally being led into exile in this chapter.
What? Exile? Yes, see the irony. We often hear this verse used in times of easy hope rather than times when we aren’t sure of God’s plan… like maybe how you’re feeling right now.
The beauty of this verse is the context, that no matter your circumstances – just like with God’s people whose circumstances had a horrible outlook. Everything around them told them not to hope. That there was no future, and yet God declared to them something different.
He promises us that despite what the world, our circumstances, and our fears say, He has a plan. “Plans to GIVE you hope and a future.” Now, we may not know what that plan is, but we can trust the heart of the One who has made the plan. After all, He is Emmanuel – God with us. What a better time of year than Christmas for us to be reminded of the Lord’s heart for us. After all, He left Heaven’s perfection that we might call it Home.