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Day 4

Something we touched on yesterday was “desiring a Godly marriage but trusting God with the timing of it all.” Let’s break down this desire and the difference between desiring something of God versus having an idol.

In the Old Testament we can see many idols both physical and spiritual as they plagued God’s people. We see the Israelites constantly meeting other cultures who bow to idols as their gods. We even see when Moses went to get the 10 Commandments that Aaron and the Israelites traded God in for an idol, a golden calf (read that story in Exodus 32).

In the New Testament we see a shift from physical idols to lesser clear ones. We see the Pharisees’ idolizing power and greed. We see the Rich Young Ruler (Mark 10:17-27) idolizes money over following Jesus Christ.

So often we like to think we don’t have idols in our lives, but we’re not immune. If we’re not careful, and watchful – we often form idols without realizing it. Mine used to be marriage. Yep, there it is. I used to idolize marriage.

What does that mean exactly? I wanted marriage (yes, even a Godly marriage) so badly that I wanted it more than I wanted God. It was my priority. To put it plainly, it was the most important thing to me. And more times than I can say, the enemy (meaning Satan) used this against me.

Satan is so good at taking what God has designed as healthy, pure, and beautiful and twisting it. Jesus reminds us of this in John 10:10,

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” – John 10:10

Other translations say abundant life. Here we can clearly see the enemy (aka: the thief) whose entire goal is destruction. Then we see Jesus’ goal and that is all about abundant life.

When I really began to realize what this verse meant I started taking the spiritual battle seriously. Meaning thoughts like outlined on Day 1:

–          Your relationship status reveals your worth.

–          You can’t be happy or joyful in this season.

–          Something is missing from your current life.

–          If only you were closer to God, then maybe He’d send your person.

–          Your desire for marriage isn’t godly.

–          And this is only naming a few…

When these thoughts came, I knew immediately NONE of these were truth. God wasn’t speaking any of them over me. Each of these were based on Satan’s lies and his desire to destroy my life – trying to take something God meant for good and twisting it while also using it to push me away from God’s love.

The enemy can’t claim your eternity if you are a believer, but he sure can discourage and distract you from life for Jesus here on earth.

What if we actually believed in how much Jesus loves us? Emmanuel who came to be with us, and save us because it was the only way. Giving up Himself to make a way, and yet often times I would let the worry about not being married pull me away from Him? Not anymore. Because this knowledge of who Jesus is went from head to heart.

Jesus is for you.

Jesus loves you.

Jesus never leaves you.

Don’t you think if marriage is what is best for you that He is going to help you find that right person?

Don’t you think marriage of His people gives Him glory?

Don’t you think He wants every good thing for you?

I am not saying God promises marriage, He doesn’t. Instead, He promises good for us.

“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” – Romans 8:28

So, what changed? The shift came from knowing God’s heart for me! My desire started in a healthy place at a young age, and it is again today but somewhere I let the desire become something God never planned. How do I know? Because He never wants anything to take His place in my life. Nothing should ever come between us and God, and if it does – usually it’s sin or an idol.

Take note: an idol is wanting something no matter the cost, a Godly desire is wanting God’s best for me over everything else (even marriage).

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